Remember the time when you were young and wanted to be a someone.. say.. a superstar, a fireman, a chef, soldier, superman.. whatever?
yea.. when I was a kid, I had a whole lot of those fantasies. Wanted to be an astrologer, then later some chinese female warrior and then a policewoman. haha.. I guess we're all kids and love to daydream.
now that we're all grown up, what kind of dreams do we have? Grow up faster, make lots of money, get a house, a car, get married? that's all? I don't know.. but it's really quite sad that most of us have lost that innocence we used to have. Is that the price for growing up? I used to resist growing up.. for fear of losing this innocence. But I learnt to take things slowly and decide what I want to keep and what I want to discard as I grow up. I hope I haven't lost myself in the rat race. I still have my dream, to explore the world. I guess that's one thing I will never give up.
I really hope to earn a lot to finance and materialise this dream. =]
On getting married? Nah, it's not really something I'm after. I can't be like my friend who wants to marry, have kids and be a rich tai tai. It's too troublesome =D
However, I do hope to find someone who could love me and have the same idea that kids are troublesome! And is willing to work hard in his field and go travelling some day ;)
haha. and so.. I continue dreaming.
Sunday, June 08, 2008
Thursday, June 05, 2008
Gemini Descendant
If Gemini lies on your Descendant, you're searching for a partner who will help you to see the trees for the forest, someone who will deflate your rhetoric with their keen view of reality. Since you have Sagittarius Rising, you have a tendency to want to roam the world endlessly, to continuously question your life's path and explore your every whim and curiosity. Being tied down frightens you, and you instinctually seek out partners who will make you aware of the smaller picture, someone who will want to keep moving around as much you do. When it comes to love, you paint with broad strokes, idealizing the notion of love and expecting your lovers to live up to your high intellectual expectations. You'd be happiest with someone vibrant and youthful; they must mentally stimulate you yet not congratulate you for your occasional arrogance and preachiness!
http://horoscopes.astrology.com/astronet/love/descendant.html
When Sagittarius is your Rising Sign, your freedom and independence are probably two of the things you value most in life. You find it, therefore, very difficult to tolerate anyone or anything that places limitations on your thoughts and activities.
Where marriage or close relationships are concerned, this influence of Sagittarius can cause problems. The reason is that committing yourself to share your life with another person automatically imposes a certain amount of restriction on your freedom and independence.
After the initial romance has faded and your partnership has become a practical affair with all the daily routine it involves, you can begin to resent the fact that you are no longer free and independent. Unless you take full control of this shift in attitude, the influence of Sagittarius rising can lead to a broken relationship. As a matter of fact, this particular Zodiac position is notorious in the divorce courts and in the lives of many people who have married more than once. Of course, there is also the other extreme where the person refuses to surrender his or her freedom and does not marry at all. Where happiness in a partnership is concerned, the influence of the Sun, Moon and planets will be of paramount importance. Certainly not every person with Sagittarius on the Ascendant will go through a separation or a divorce but, nevertheless, it is an influence that needs careful handling.
Vitality is a dominant characteristic of this Sign, and since you love the freedom you find in the outdoors and in the fresh air, in the sunshine and the wide, open spaces, you enjoy expressing your energy in various types of sporting or outdoor activities where you can feel totally unrestricted and unhampered. You have an optimistic nature, so that it takes a lot to get you down; even when this does happen, you soon come bubbling back again. After all, with jovial Jupiter as your personal planet, it is not surprising that you laugh and smile more than most people.
You have an enthusiastic, colourful, even flamboyant personality, but you do have a tendency to be over-confident, over-optimistic and prone to exaggeration. These intemperate enthusiasms plus the volatility of your spirit, can sometimes lead you astray or put people off side. You are seldom subtle and certainly never devious, preferring instead I to be completely candid, open and frank, even to the point of bluntness. Just remember that your abrupt manner is not always understood by some of the reserved, conservative people with whom you come into contact.
http://www.miltonblack.com.au/ast/ascendants/sagittarius.htm
If Gemini lies on your Descendant, you're searching for a partner who will help you to see the trees for the forest, someone who will deflate your rhetoric with their keen view of reality. Since you have Sagittarius Rising, you have a tendency to want to roam the world endlessly, to continuously question your life's path and explore your every whim and curiosity. Being tied down frightens you, and you instinctually seek out partners who will make you aware of the smaller picture, someone who will want to keep moving around as much you do. When it comes to love, you paint with broad strokes, idealizing the notion of love and expecting your lovers to live up to your high intellectual expectations. You'd be happiest with someone vibrant and youthful; they must mentally stimulate you yet not congratulate you for your occasional arrogance and preachiness!
http://horoscopes.astrology.com/astronet/love/descendant.html
When Sagittarius is your Rising Sign, your freedom and independence are probably two of the things you value most in life. You find it, therefore, very difficult to tolerate anyone or anything that places limitations on your thoughts and activities.
Where marriage or close relationships are concerned, this influence of Sagittarius can cause problems. The reason is that committing yourself to share your life with another person automatically imposes a certain amount of restriction on your freedom and independence.
After the initial romance has faded and your partnership has become a practical affair with all the daily routine it involves, you can begin to resent the fact that you are no longer free and independent. Unless you take full control of this shift in attitude, the influence of Sagittarius rising can lead to a broken relationship. As a matter of fact, this particular Zodiac position is notorious in the divorce courts and in the lives of many people who have married more than once. Of course, there is also the other extreme where the person refuses to surrender his or her freedom and does not marry at all. Where happiness in a partnership is concerned, the influence of the Sun, Moon and planets will be of paramount importance. Certainly not every person with Sagittarius on the Ascendant will go through a separation or a divorce but, nevertheless, it is an influence that needs careful handling.
Vitality is a dominant characteristic of this Sign, and since you love the freedom you find in the outdoors and in the fresh air, in the sunshine and the wide, open spaces, you enjoy expressing your energy in various types of sporting or outdoor activities where you can feel totally unrestricted and unhampered. You have an optimistic nature, so that it takes a lot to get you down; even when this does happen, you soon come bubbling back again. After all, with jovial Jupiter as your personal planet, it is not surprising that you laugh and smile more than most people.
You have an enthusiastic, colourful, even flamboyant personality, but you do have a tendency to be over-confident, over-optimistic and prone to exaggeration. These intemperate enthusiasms plus the volatility of your spirit, can sometimes lead you astray or put people off side. You are seldom subtle and certainly never devious, preferring instead I to be completely candid, open and frank, even to the point of bluntness. Just remember that your abrupt manner is not always understood by some of the reserved, conservative people with whom you come into contact.
http://www.miltonblack.com.au/ast/ascendants/sagittarius.htm
was thinking about ascendants.. you can check out what's yours rather easily.. just google for 'what is your rising sign?' yup. should be able to find out. So.. I have sagittarius rising. =] unsuprising for my restlessness and optimism huh ^_^ here's some juicy info once you know your ascendant
The Ascendant is the degree of the ecliptic which is rising over the Eastern horizon at the precise time and place of an individual's birth. Put more simply, the Ascendant Sign is the sign of the zodiac which is rising in the East at the moment of birth, and this sign, and the exact position of the Ascending degree, are the starting points in any astrological interpretation.
The Ascendant shows us as we really are - as opposed to the Sun sign which represents our ego and how we would like to be. This is most strikingly obvious if one talks about a person to someone who a casual acquaintance, and describes their character as shown by the Ascendant Sign - in the vast majority of cases, the third person cannot identify those traits as belonging to the subject at all, because Ascendant Sign traits are those that emerge only to those closest to us, and who know us really well. You may find it very revealing to see how this applies to you personally, so let's now take a quick tour through the zodiac signs to see how they behave when instead of being the Sun Sign they are the Ascendant Sign.
Aries Ascendant
The most noticeable trait about an Aries Ascendant person is their overwhelming desire to win. They have an energetic driving force ad remarkable energy reserves. Ruthlessness can be a problem, although competition is generally an excellent spur. There are many strong and positive traits in this placing, but perhaps this person needs to learn to step back a little and take a closer look at what they are doing and why they are doing it. Frequent headaches are common with this placing. In contrast to the independence of Sun sign Arians, those with Aries rising have a very strong need for a permanent partner, and they can be surprisingly understanding, compassionate and tolerant of their loved ones.
Taurus Ascendant
The basic impulse in a person with Taurus rising is acquisition, and this need to possess both things and people is even strong than in those with a Taurus sun. Often these people cannot feel psychologically whole until they can surround themselves with physical proof of their material success. Routine and security are important, and those with Taurus rising don't really enjoy stepping out of their comfort zone. Stubbornness and self-righteousness are as much in evidence as with a Taurus sun, but for those with Taurus rising deep self-understanding has be found the hard way. There can be difficulties with the thyroid gland with this placing. This placing also brings a very deep sexual need, and relationships in general will be intense and passionate. Demanding partners, those with Taurus rising can nonetheless be a tower of strength to those they love.
Gemini Ascendant
Although inherently changeable and flighty, those with Gemini rising don't have their heads in the clouds. With everything life throws at them, they just want one answer - can it be proven by either argument or evidence? Questioning every concept that is put to them, these people are equally adept at questioning themselves, and therefore usually have a high degree of self-understanding. Passionate enthusiasm and joie de vivre are normal in relationships for people with Gemini rising, and shared interests are essential with much intellectual satisfaction being gained from friendly debate. A strong independent streak is likely, though, and the person with Gemini rising abhors possessiveness and jealousy. The hands are often vulnerable with this placing, especially to arthritis. Nervous tension is also a very real problem, and a high number of those with a Gemini Ascendant succumb to asthma.
Cancer Ascendant
With Cancer rising, a great deal of satisfaction is gained through caring for others. Sometimes the instinct to care for loved ones is so strong that anyone and anything outside the immediate circle can be viewed as a threat. The attitude is protective, however, rather than possessive. Those with Cancer rising give out a huge amount of energy to their families and loved ones, and in the absence of a loved one this energy is usually channelled into one particular focus, often a vocation or a chosen cause. Social climbing can be a problem with this placing as these people are especially ambitious for their partners, rather than for themselves. Illogical worry about health is likely, causing a vicious circle of nervous anxiety which should be recognised and dealt with. This Ascendant placing is not one of the strongest, and therefore any planets in the first house, especially if conjunct the Ascendant, will have a powerful impact upon the personality.
Leo Ascendant
The person with Leo rising is likely to be incredibly well organised, but also rather bossy or even pompous. The desire to succeed is very strong in those with this placing, but this can lead to the stifling of all other interests in favour of the career. Those with a Leo Ascendant are very concerned with status, and will want to work always to enhance the standing of themselves and their loved ones, although material success in its own right is less important to them than the kudos that goes with it. Usually psychologically secure, this placing confers a great deal of inner strength and can be very dynamic. Back or neck pain is common.
Virgo Ascendant
Those with a Virgo Ascendant often have a Gemini Midheaven, and as both of these signs are ruled by communicative Mercury, this planet easily becomes the most important in the natal chart. The person with Virgo rising has a need to examine every aspect of his or her life in minute detail, and they are the zodiac's greatest communicators. Usually very well integrated psychologically, this can be a very fulfilling position provided that the potential here is positively directed. This can be easier said than done because the Sun Sign Virgo tendency to worry and to criticise is turned inwards on the self when this sign rises, so self-confidence and self-esteem are often rather low. A remarkable warmth in personal relationships belies this sign's reputation to nag, although people with this placing do tend to encourage their loved ones rather 'vigorously'.
Libra Ascendant
Libra is not one of the strongest signs in the zodiac, even when rising, so any other powerful influence in the chart can easily sap it's quiet dignity. The basis of the personality, however, if unopposed, is the need to relate to others. Very often the person with Libra rising will rush into all sorts of unsuitable relationships on the basis that any partner is better than no partner. The notorious sun sign Libran tendency to be in love with love is however spiced with a lively sexuality when Libra rises, and an altogether more 'worldly' outlook on life. Naturally charming and gentle, these people do however tend to take the easy way out of any tricky situations, and can often be prone to self deception.
Scorpio Ascendant
Scorpio is a very powerful sign, and when it is the rising sign it often dominates the rest of the chart. The deep sense of purpose attributed to Scorpio as a sun sign is likely to be even more deep seated when this sign rises, so here is a very intense and driven person. Considerable energy and organisational abilities are combined with leadership powers in what can be a formidable combination. There is often, however, a need for power for it's own sake, and those with Scorpio rising need to take care not to become obsessive or autocratic. With a deep need to know themselves, the person with a Scorpio Ascendant is capable of seeing their own problems and faults clearly and honestly, but this introspection can often lead to confidence struggles. Emotional security is very important with this placing, but may be exacerbated by jealousy and possessiveness, which can be difficult for a partner to handle.
Sagittarius Ascendant
The need for challenge, so important in a sun sign Sagittarian, is even more important when Sagittarius rises. This placing usually brings a great deal of self confidence together with an expansive, enthusiastic demeanour which is at once charming and endearing. Able to inspire others almost as well as they can inspire themselves, those with Sagittarius rising have an objective and philosophical outlook on life, and are amongst the most broad minded folk you will ever encounter. A tendency to rush in, however, together with a great deal of restlessness, sometimes means that all that potential isn't exploited to its full. Intellectual challenge in essential to these people, both in their working and their personal lives, and a healthy amount of sexual exuberance is also necessary in a romance. Quickly bored, however, the person with Sagittarius rising is open to depression when life offers no challenge, and once in depression, they find it uncharacteristically difficult to climb out.
Capricorn Ascendant
The most crucial issue for those with Capricorn rising is their wavering self-confidence - on moment they can climb mountains, the next they can barely cope with the supermarket. This often means that the person with a Capricorn Ascendant is very confident is some areas (usually work) and quite shy and reserved in others (usually personal). An inability to see themselves clearly leads them to ignore the compliments people offer, and to seriously undervalue their abilities and strengths. Once settled into a relationship, the Capricorn rising person is surprisingly sensitive and emotional, although a tendency to worry does sometimes turn into nagging. Digestive upsets are easily caused by emotional tension, and pessimism can be a real problem. Inherently rational, the Capricorn rising person needs to make room in their lives for spirituality.
Aquarius Ascendant
'Enigmatic' is perhaps the best way to describe someone with an Aquarius Ascendant. The diffidence and emotional coolness of the sun sign are even more evident with Aquarius rises, as is the independent nature and free spirit. Kind and friendly, the Aquarius rising person needs to learn to accept others at face value and not to erect barriers. Eager for self-knowledge, they nonetheless deliberately make it difficult for others to get too close. Relationships are quite an issue in this placing, with the subject always been torn between wanting to retain their independence and freedom yet at the same time longing for a loving relationship. At times perverse and very stubborn, these people can be their own worse enemies, yet they are true humanitarians - sometimes more concerned about the world at large than their own individual loved ones.
Pisces Ascendant
When Pisces rises the person concerned can be in real danger of losing their identity, especially if in a relationship with someone with much stronger personality traits. The Pisces rising person is in many ways a mirror, reflecting back at others precisely what they want to see, yet the true person remains hidden, vulnerable and more than a little frightened. With enormous imaginative and creative talents, the person with Pisces Ascendant is probably one of the true artists of the zodiac, in whatever form they may choose to use their skills. Sensitive and more than a little gullible they need to take care that they are not taken advantage of. Shyness and a lack of confidence are common, as are psychic and healing abilities and a great deal of spiritual wisdom.
The Ascendant is the degree of the ecliptic which is rising over the Eastern horizon at the precise time and place of an individual's birth. Put more simply, the Ascendant Sign is the sign of the zodiac which is rising in the East at the moment of birth, and this sign, and the exact position of the Ascending degree, are the starting points in any astrological interpretation.
The Ascendant shows us as we really are - as opposed to the Sun sign which represents our ego and how we would like to be. This is most strikingly obvious if one talks about a person to someone who a casual acquaintance, and describes their character as shown by the Ascendant Sign - in the vast majority of cases, the third person cannot identify those traits as belonging to the subject at all, because Ascendant Sign traits are those that emerge only to those closest to us, and who know us really well. You may find it very revealing to see how this applies to you personally, so let's now take a quick tour through the zodiac signs to see how they behave when instead of being the Sun Sign they are the Ascendant Sign.
Aries Ascendant
The most noticeable trait about an Aries Ascendant person is their overwhelming desire to win. They have an energetic driving force ad remarkable energy reserves. Ruthlessness can be a problem, although competition is generally an excellent spur. There are many strong and positive traits in this placing, but perhaps this person needs to learn to step back a little and take a closer look at what they are doing and why they are doing it. Frequent headaches are common with this placing. In contrast to the independence of Sun sign Arians, those with Aries rising have a very strong need for a permanent partner, and they can be surprisingly understanding, compassionate and tolerant of their loved ones.
Taurus Ascendant
The basic impulse in a person with Taurus rising is acquisition, and this need to possess both things and people is even strong than in those with a Taurus sun. Often these people cannot feel psychologically whole until they can surround themselves with physical proof of their material success. Routine and security are important, and those with Taurus rising don't really enjoy stepping out of their comfort zone. Stubbornness and self-righteousness are as much in evidence as with a Taurus sun, but for those with Taurus rising deep self-understanding has be found the hard way. There can be difficulties with the thyroid gland with this placing. This placing also brings a very deep sexual need, and relationships in general will be intense and passionate. Demanding partners, those with Taurus rising can nonetheless be a tower of strength to those they love.
Gemini Ascendant
Although inherently changeable and flighty, those with Gemini rising don't have their heads in the clouds. With everything life throws at them, they just want one answer - can it be proven by either argument or evidence? Questioning every concept that is put to them, these people are equally adept at questioning themselves, and therefore usually have a high degree of self-understanding. Passionate enthusiasm and joie de vivre are normal in relationships for people with Gemini rising, and shared interests are essential with much intellectual satisfaction being gained from friendly debate. A strong independent streak is likely, though, and the person with Gemini rising abhors possessiveness and jealousy. The hands are often vulnerable with this placing, especially to arthritis. Nervous tension is also a very real problem, and a high number of those with a Gemini Ascendant succumb to asthma.
Cancer Ascendant
With Cancer rising, a great deal of satisfaction is gained through caring for others. Sometimes the instinct to care for loved ones is so strong that anyone and anything outside the immediate circle can be viewed as a threat. The attitude is protective, however, rather than possessive. Those with Cancer rising give out a huge amount of energy to their families and loved ones, and in the absence of a loved one this energy is usually channelled into one particular focus, often a vocation or a chosen cause. Social climbing can be a problem with this placing as these people are especially ambitious for their partners, rather than for themselves. Illogical worry about health is likely, causing a vicious circle of nervous anxiety which should be recognised and dealt with. This Ascendant placing is not one of the strongest, and therefore any planets in the first house, especially if conjunct the Ascendant, will have a powerful impact upon the personality.
Leo Ascendant
The person with Leo rising is likely to be incredibly well organised, but also rather bossy or even pompous. The desire to succeed is very strong in those with this placing, but this can lead to the stifling of all other interests in favour of the career. Those with a Leo Ascendant are very concerned with status, and will want to work always to enhance the standing of themselves and their loved ones, although material success in its own right is less important to them than the kudos that goes with it. Usually psychologically secure, this placing confers a great deal of inner strength and can be very dynamic. Back or neck pain is common.
Virgo Ascendant
Those with a Virgo Ascendant often have a Gemini Midheaven, and as both of these signs are ruled by communicative Mercury, this planet easily becomes the most important in the natal chart. The person with Virgo rising has a need to examine every aspect of his or her life in minute detail, and they are the zodiac's greatest communicators. Usually very well integrated psychologically, this can be a very fulfilling position provided that the potential here is positively directed. This can be easier said than done because the Sun Sign Virgo tendency to worry and to criticise is turned inwards on the self when this sign rises, so self-confidence and self-esteem are often rather low. A remarkable warmth in personal relationships belies this sign's reputation to nag, although people with this placing do tend to encourage their loved ones rather 'vigorously'.
Libra Ascendant
Libra is not one of the strongest signs in the zodiac, even when rising, so any other powerful influence in the chart can easily sap it's quiet dignity. The basis of the personality, however, if unopposed, is the need to relate to others. Very often the person with Libra rising will rush into all sorts of unsuitable relationships on the basis that any partner is better than no partner. The notorious sun sign Libran tendency to be in love with love is however spiced with a lively sexuality when Libra rises, and an altogether more 'worldly' outlook on life. Naturally charming and gentle, these people do however tend to take the easy way out of any tricky situations, and can often be prone to self deception.
Scorpio Ascendant
Scorpio is a very powerful sign, and when it is the rising sign it often dominates the rest of the chart. The deep sense of purpose attributed to Scorpio as a sun sign is likely to be even more deep seated when this sign rises, so here is a very intense and driven person. Considerable energy and organisational abilities are combined with leadership powers in what can be a formidable combination. There is often, however, a need for power for it's own sake, and those with Scorpio rising need to take care not to become obsessive or autocratic. With a deep need to know themselves, the person with a Scorpio Ascendant is capable of seeing their own problems and faults clearly and honestly, but this introspection can often lead to confidence struggles. Emotional security is very important with this placing, but may be exacerbated by jealousy and possessiveness, which can be difficult for a partner to handle.
Sagittarius Ascendant
The need for challenge, so important in a sun sign Sagittarian, is even more important when Sagittarius rises. This placing usually brings a great deal of self confidence together with an expansive, enthusiastic demeanour which is at once charming and endearing. Able to inspire others almost as well as they can inspire themselves, those with Sagittarius rising have an objective and philosophical outlook on life, and are amongst the most broad minded folk you will ever encounter. A tendency to rush in, however, together with a great deal of restlessness, sometimes means that all that potential isn't exploited to its full. Intellectual challenge in essential to these people, both in their working and their personal lives, and a healthy amount of sexual exuberance is also necessary in a romance. Quickly bored, however, the person with Sagittarius rising is open to depression when life offers no challenge, and once in depression, they find it uncharacteristically difficult to climb out.
Capricorn Ascendant
The most crucial issue for those with Capricorn rising is their wavering self-confidence - on moment they can climb mountains, the next they can barely cope with the supermarket. This often means that the person with a Capricorn Ascendant is very confident is some areas (usually work) and quite shy and reserved in others (usually personal). An inability to see themselves clearly leads them to ignore the compliments people offer, and to seriously undervalue their abilities and strengths. Once settled into a relationship, the Capricorn rising person is surprisingly sensitive and emotional, although a tendency to worry does sometimes turn into nagging. Digestive upsets are easily caused by emotional tension, and pessimism can be a real problem. Inherently rational, the Capricorn rising person needs to make room in their lives for spirituality.
Aquarius Ascendant
'Enigmatic' is perhaps the best way to describe someone with an Aquarius Ascendant. The diffidence and emotional coolness of the sun sign are even more evident with Aquarius rises, as is the independent nature and free spirit. Kind and friendly, the Aquarius rising person needs to learn to accept others at face value and not to erect barriers. Eager for self-knowledge, they nonetheless deliberately make it difficult for others to get too close. Relationships are quite an issue in this placing, with the subject always been torn between wanting to retain their independence and freedom yet at the same time longing for a loving relationship. At times perverse and very stubborn, these people can be their own worse enemies, yet they are true humanitarians - sometimes more concerned about the world at large than their own individual loved ones.
Pisces Ascendant
When Pisces rises the person concerned can be in real danger of losing their identity, especially if in a relationship with someone with much stronger personality traits. The Pisces rising person is in many ways a mirror, reflecting back at others precisely what they want to see, yet the true person remains hidden, vulnerable and more than a little frightened. With enormous imaginative and creative talents, the person with Pisces Ascendant is probably one of the true artists of the zodiac, in whatever form they may choose to use their skills. Sensitive and more than a little gullible they need to take care that they are not taken advantage of. Shyness and a lack of confidence are common, as are psychic and healing abilities and a great deal of spiritual wisdom.
Wednesday, June 04, 2008
Tuesday, June 03, 2008
I was in college the night I met him. And even after all these years, the thing I remember most is the unexpected, very physical shiver that immediately ran up my spine when he looked at me. He’s It, that shiver said.
We talked, we flirted, we had our first date two days later. I fell hard. I loved that he was sweet, but not saccharine. I loved that he was Jewish, but not too Jewish. I loved that he was a fan of Hot Tamales, the candy I ate by the truckload back then. And (OK, call me shallow) I loved that he was an Ivy League graduate.
Our odds were good: I was 20, he was 23, and we added up to the perfect couple. Except that after three years, as I was busy trying to drop the subtle hint that my ring size was 6 3/4, he was busy cheating on me. I found out, we broke up, and let’s just say the next six months weren’t pretty.
I’m still not sure what got to me the most: the rejection or the fact that I had truly believed, in my gut, that my boyfriend was The One. So if that first shiver, followed by a fabulous three-year relationship, wasn’t the telltale sign, how does anyone ever know who’s right for them in the long run?
Apparently, I’m not the only person who has struggled with this question. It came up again last summer, at my client Amy’s wedding. I was seated at the “singles table,” since brides often like to treat their unattached friends to my dating advice.
The woman next to me leaned over and whispered, “When Amy met Kurt, she told me she just knew it was right. When will I ever feel that way?”
I knew the answer she wanted to hear. By now I’ve coached thousands of singles on how to find love, and watched hundreds of clients and friends trot down the aisle. But what I wanted to tell her was, “Maybe never.”
It wasn’t that I didn’t believe this woman would ever find the right guy. It was more that I feared she might never know he was the right guy. An hour earlier, sitting in the church, it struck me that what I was really witnessing was a crapshoot. Here was this couple at the altar, pledging their lives to each other.
And as happy as I was for them, I knew the truth: When you get married, all you can really do is roll the dice and hope for the best.
But everywhere I go, I meet smug married couples who love to relate the moment they “just knew” they’d found their life partners. As far as I’m concerned, it’s revisionist history; if the marriage in question has worked out so far, they say they acted on their rocksolid gut. But if it ended in divorce, they confess to earlier doubts.
To be frank, I don’t believe anyone can really know this kind of information for sure—and I speak not just from my college relationship, or from all my years as a dating coach, but from reflecting back on my own 1992 wedding.
My jitters were epic, the kind that had my friends speculating on how long my marriage would last and the caterer reminding my mother that the deposit was strictly non-refundable.
An hour before my ceremony, I nearly collapsed. As the photographer snapped pictures, my smile was strained; I was terrified. My fiancé, Brad, and I had dated for two years and been engaged for one. We knew each other well. But did we know what the future would hold for us? Of course not.
“So let me get this straight,” my brain was saying. “I’m supposed to decide today to be with one person for the rest of my life because, up until now, things have been great? Because, so far, I still love him?” This made no sense. I was tormented by what everyone had told me for years about marriage in general, and my fiancé in particular—the old “you’ll just know” or “trust your gut.”
Well, this time, I didn’t know, and my gut had a bad stomachache.
So naturally, I took the path of any good drama queen: I dropped my bouquet, slumped into a nearby chair, and burst into tears.
Brad rushed over and shooed away the photographer. While he was aware that I’d had many doubts during the past year, he had none. My own hesitations, on the other hand, were quite serious; I’d even harbored a crush on another man during my engagement year. I’d confessed everything to Brad—I did love him, after all, and wanted our relationship to be honest.
But we were so different—opposites in too many ways. (More than one friend had observed that we were a lot like that Green Acres couple from the ’70s: I was “Gimme Park Avenue” and he was “Farm Livin’ Is the Life for Me.”) How could it work, I wondered, when reality would inevitably come knocking? We loved each other—a lot, as it turned out. But what sane person could believe that love alone would pass the test of time, particularly when 50 percent of today’s marriages end in divorce?
So there I was: big white dress, mascara running. “How can I say ‘forever’?” I sobbed. “It’s too long to commit to!” Brad took my hand. “How about this,” he said gently, not even remotely offended. “Can you commit to being with me for one year?”
“Of course,” I said, sniffling. “That’s easy, but—” He interrupted me.
“Then let’s take it one year at a time. Publicly, we’ll say our vows, ‘until death do us part.’ But privately, we’ll have our own little arrangement. Each year on our anniversary, I’ll ask you if you want to renew. We’ll do this a year at a time. Can you do that?” Overwhelmed by the generosity of his answer, I said that I could. And I did.
These days, my job is to help single men and women find the right mate—and it’s never simple. No one is perfect. Everyone has baggage. And when they’re in that last stage of dating, trying to decide whether or not to make it permanent, my clients usually ask for my opinion. Do I think they should marry this one? Sometimes I say yes, sometimes no. But the truth is, I have no idea.
Making that decision is like skydiving: It’s a crazy thing to do if you think about it logically, but you pray that the ride down will be exhilarating and that you’ll land on your feet. And in my experience, people take that leap of faith with naïve confidence.
Of course, some factors do seem to improve the odds—especially age. I see fewer unhappy couples among those who get married later in life, specifically after 35. This is largely because they’re making the decision to marry with more life experience under their belts.
They’re also committing to a fully formed person. Next comes personality. I’ve observed that opposites who complement each other often do very well. If you marry someone who’s too similar—especially emotionally—you may wind up bored or in conflict.
Finally, try not to be judgmental right out of the gate. I often find that my clients have checklists founded on external, and not internal, traits. Why eliminate a potentially terrific guy because he’s a few inches shorter than you’d ideally prefer? As a general rule, rigidity never pays.
But—and wouldn’t love be easier if this weren’t the case?— it’s different for everyone. Back at that singles’ table, I was immersed, as usual, in conversation about dating and marriage.
Everyone wanted to be a Knower. I lost track of the times I heard the words “The One,” “Soul Mate,” and “Mr. Right.” I realized that the vocabulary these women used assumed that there was one right answer, and that the answer would be obvious when it arrived. I wanted to tell them—but didn’t—that it’s OK if they don’t “just know,” or if “Mr. Right” is “Mr. Probably.”
Sometimes a marriage can be stronger if you have reservations. If your bond seems a little fragile, you take better care to preserve it.
The irony is not lost on me that my greatest fear—committing to someone forever—became the focus of my profession.
But I like to think I was meant to spread the word that it’s OK to have doubts—even profound doubts—before saying “I do.” And, as my own 14th wedding anniversary approaches, I know Brad’s question will come once again.
Which brings me to the lovely part of this story: So far, things have worked out beautifully. Don’t ask me how. He’s really flexible; I’m really not.
I’m perceptive. Him? Not so much. But in a few weeks, when he asks me if I want to renew my vows for another year, I just know what my answer will be.
Rachel Greenwald lives in Denver, Colo. with her husband and children.
http://www.tangomag.com/2006135/the-odds-couple.html/1
We talked, we flirted, we had our first date two days later. I fell hard. I loved that he was sweet, but not saccharine. I loved that he was Jewish, but not too Jewish. I loved that he was a fan of Hot Tamales, the candy I ate by the truckload back then. And (OK, call me shallow) I loved that he was an Ivy League graduate.
Our odds were good: I was 20, he was 23, and we added up to the perfect couple. Except that after three years, as I was busy trying to drop the subtle hint that my ring size was 6 3/4, he was busy cheating on me. I found out, we broke up, and let’s just say the next six months weren’t pretty.
I’m still not sure what got to me the most: the rejection or the fact that I had truly believed, in my gut, that my boyfriend was The One. So if that first shiver, followed by a fabulous three-year relationship, wasn’t the telltale sign, how does anyone ever know who’s right for them in the long run?
Apparently, I’m not the only person who has struggled with this question. It came up again last summer, at my client Amy’s wedding. I was seated at the “singles table,” since brides often like to treat their unattached friends to my dating advice.
The woman next to me leaned over and whispered, “When Amy met Kurt, she told me she just knew it was right. When will I ever feel that way?”
I knew the answer she wanted to hear. By now I’ve coached thousands of singles on how to find love, and watched hundreds of clients and friends trot down the aisle. But what I wanted to tell her was, “Maybe never.”
It wasn’t that I didn’t believe this woman would ever find the right guy. It was more that I feared she might never know he was the right guy. An hour earlier, sitting in the church, it struck me that what I was really witnessing was a crapshoot. Here was this couple at the altar, pledging their lives to each other.
And as happy as I was for them, I knew the truth: When you get married, all you can really do is roll the dice and hope for the best.
But everywhere I go, I meet smug married couples who love to relate the moment they “just knew” they’d found their life partners. As far as I’m concerned, it’s revisionist history; if the marriage in question has worked out so far, they say they acted on their rocksolid gut. But if it ended in divorce, they confess to earlier doubts.
To be frank, I don’t believe anyone can really know this kind of information for sure—and I speak not just from my college relationship, or from all my years as a dating coach, but from reflecting back on my own 1992 wedding.
My jitters were epic, the kind that had my friends speculating on how long my marriage would last and the caterer reminding my mother that the deposit was strictly non-refundable.
An hour before my ceremony, I nearly collapsed. As the photographer snapped pictures, my smile was strained; I was terrified. My fiancé, Brad, and I had dated for two years and been engaged for one. We knew each other well. But did we know what the future would hold for us? Of course not.
“So let me get this straight,” my brain was saying. “I’m supposed to decide today to be with one person for the rest of my life because, up until now, things have been great? Because, so far, I still love him?” This made no sense. I was tormented by what everyone had told me for years about marriage in general, and my fiancé in particular—the old “you’ll just know” or “trust your gut.”
Well, this time, I didn’t know, and my gut had a bad stomachache.
So naturally, I took the path of any good drama queen: I dropped my bouquet, slumped into a nearby chair, and burst into tears.
Brad rushed over and shooed away the photographer. While he was aware that I’d had many doubts during the past year, he had none. My own hesitations, on the other hand, were quite serious; I’d even harbored a crush on another man during my engagement year. I’d confessed everything to Brad—I did love him, after all, and wanted our relationship to be honest.
But we were so different—opposites in too many ways. (More than one friend had observed that we were a lot like that Green Acres couple from the ’70s: I was “Gimme Park Avenue” and he was “Farm Livin’ Is the Life for Me.”) How could it work, I wondered, when reality would inevitably come knocking? We loved each other—a lot, as it turned out. But what sane person could believe that love alone would pass the test of time, particularly when 50 percent of today’s marriages end in divorce?
So there I was: big white dress, mascara running. “How can I say ‘forever’?” I sobbed. “It’s too long to commit to!” Brad took my hand. “How about this,” he said gently, not even remotely offended. “Can you commit to being with me for one year?”
“Of course,” I said, sniffling. “That’s easy, but—” He interrupted me.
“Then let’s take it one year at a time. Publicly, we’ll say our vows, ‘until death do us part.’ But privately, we’ll have our own little arrangement. Each year on our anniversary, I’ll ask you if you want to renew. We’ll do this a year at a time. Can you do that?” Overwhelmed by the generosity of his answer, I said that I could. And I did.
These days, my job is to help single men and women find the right mate—and it’s never simple. No one is perfect. Everyone has baggage. And when they’re in that last stage of dating, trying to decide whether or not to make it permanent, my clients usually ask for my opinion. Do I think they should marry this one? Sometimes I say yes, sometimes no. But the truth is, I have no idea.
Making that decision is like skydiving: It’s a crazy thing to do if you think about it logically, but you pray that the ride down will be exhilarating and that you’ll land on your feet. And in my experience, people take that leap of faith with naïve confidence.
Of course, some factors do seem to improve the odds—especially age. I see fewer unhappy couples among those who get married later in life, specifically after 35. This is largely because they’re making the decision to marry with more life experience under their belts.
They’re also committing to a fully formed person. Next comes personality. I’ve observed that opposites who complement each other often do very well. If you marry someone who’s too similar—especially emotionally—you may wind up bored or in conflict.
Finally, try not to be judgmental right out of the gate. I often find that my clients have checklists founded on external, and not internal, traits. Why eliminate a potentially terrific guy because he’s a few inches shorter than you’d ideally prefer? As a general rule, rigidity never pays.
But—and wouldn’t love be easier if this weren’t the case?— it’s different for everyone. Back at that singles’ table, I was immersed, as usual, in conversation about dating and marriage.
Everyone wanted to be a Knower. I lost track of the times I heard the words “The One,” “Soul Mate,” and “Mr. Right.” I realized that the vocabulary these women used assumed that there was one right answer, and that the answer would be obvious when it arrived. I wanted to tell them—but didn’t—that it’s OK if they don’t “just know,” or if “Mr. Right” is “Mr. Probably.”
Sometimes a marriage can be stronger if you have reservations. If your bond seems a little fragile, you take better care to preserve it.
The irony is not lost on me that my greatest fear—committing to someone forever—became the focus of my profession.
But I like to think I was meant to spread the word that it’s OK to have doubts—even profound doubts—before saying “I do.” And, as my own 14th wedding anniversary approaches, I know Brad’s question will come once again.
Which brings me to the lovely part of this story: So far, things have worked out beautifully. Don’t ask me how. He’s really flexible; I’m really not.
I’m perceptive. Him? Not so much. But in a few weeks, when he asks me if I want to renew my vows for another year, I just know what my answer will be.
Rachel Greenwald lives in Denver, Colo. with her husband and children.
http://www.tangomag.com/2006135/the-odds-couple.html/1
Sunday, June 01, 2008
You desire a love that will last forever. You are quite serious about finding this type of love, and that's why you think carefully about the men that you meet before deciding whether you could really love them. You don't just develop a crush on someone overnight: you look at a person's personality and other aspects of their life before deciding to form an attachment. If a guy doesn't meet your expectations, you would rather be alone. Your love has to be perfect. Be careful though, you could be missing out on some worthy relationships because your standards are so high.
Friday, May 30, 2008
sayonara solitaire - lyrics
It’s because I love you so much that I hurt you, that I’m so confused
Coming close to your cold cheek, my soul was born
I always want to see you right away
I love you so much I can’t speak, so how will you see my kindness?
Hold me tighter, I believe in your warm heart
Farewell, solitaire, to tomorrow
Because I’m so small,, I give you everything, but it’s not enough
This hand, which can’t hide anything at all, I want to give to you
We still have to see of f the whit dawn
Why was I able to run across someone this important?
Holding on to these fingers that they almost hurt, I see the dream that had disappeared into sadness
Farewell, solitaire
Because I’m no longer alone, tomorrow awakens, and I’m with you.
Because I have someone whom I love so much, I’m here by your side, protecting you
I’m so glad that I was born on this earth that connects me to you..
Daisuki to omou kara ne kizutsu ittari tomadottari
Tsumetai hoho wo yose ate kokoro ga umareta
Itsumo ima sugu ni aitai
Mukuchi ni naruhodo suki yo yasashi sa doushitara mieru no
Dakishimete motto tsuyoku atataka na mune wo shinjiru yo
Sayonara solitia ashita he
Chiisana watashi dakaza zenbu demo tarinai yone
Nanni mo kakusanai de anata ni agetai
Mada shiroi yoake wo miokutte
Konnani daiji na hito ni doushite meguri aetano to
Itai hodo tsunagu yubi de sabishi sa kienu yume wo miru no
Sayonara solitia
Mou hitori jyanai kara ashita mezameru no anata to
Daisuki na hito dahara ne sobani iru mamotteru
Ananta he tsunagaru daichi ni umerete yokatta
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
1) What do want and need in your Relationship (or Marriage)?
I need love, care, loyalty, sincerity, faithfulness, trust, respect, patience.
I want a little craziness sometimes..
2) What do you want and need in Romance and Dating? What EXACTLY do you want from your Man (or husband).
I want him to be a man I can have complete trust in.. I need him to show that he'd really stick through rough times with me. To understand and be in tune with me on many levels..
3) What do you want and need in Sex?
Want a long foreplay.. need an orgasm? =p
4) What do you look for in a Mate (or Soul mate)?
someone with a lot of patience and understanding... someone who can connect with me and love me unconditionally as I would for him.
5) What turns you on?
Physical intimacy, good sense of humour, generosity, patience.
6) What turns you off?
Flirts, cheats, pettiness, bearing grudges, unfaithful, misers.
7) What do you (Secretly) wish your partner would know about you if you have a chance to convey that to him?
that I'm always there for him and would always care for him
8) What Do You Find MOST Challenging or Difficult about Your Love, Relationship and Marriage?
sometimes being unable to get the message across..and not understanding each other enough. [aka communication breakdown on different levels]
9) What is your TOP Problem in your relationship with your man
this.. only my man has to know. ^_^
I need love, care, loyalty, sincerity, faithfulness, trust, respect, patience.
I want a little craziness sometimes..
2) What do you want and need in Romance and Dating? What EXACTLY do you want from your Man (or husband).
I want him to be a man I can have complete trust in.. I need him to show that he'd really stick through rough times with me. To understand and be in tune with me on many levels..
3) What do you want and need in Sex?
Want a long foreplay.. need an orgasm? =p
4) What do you look for in a Mate (or Soul mate)?
someone with a lot of patience and understanding... someone who can connect with me and love me unconditionally as I would for him.
5) What turns you on?
Physical intimacy, good sense of humour, generosity, patience.
6) What turns you off?
Flirts, cheats, pettiness, bearing grudges, unfaithful, misers.
7) What do you (Secretly) wish your partner would know about you if you have a chance to convey that to him?
that I'm always there for him and would always care for him
8) What Do You Find MOST Challenging or Difficult about Your Love, Relationship and Marriage?
sometimes being unable to get the message across..and not understanding each other enough. [aka communication breakdown on different levels]
9) What is your TOP Problem in your relationship with your man
this.. only my man has to know. ^_^
Monday, May 26, 2008
Ripped off from yahoo today
KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia - Malaysia's education minister has dismissed complaints by an Islamic group that uniforms of schoolgirls are too sexy and invite rape, an official said Monday.
Education Minister Hishammuddin Hussein said over the weekend that his ministry was unlikely to change the school uniforms, which he does consider to be too sexy, but said officials would look into the matter.
"It is unfair to punish women and children and the clothes they wear for the act of rapists," The Star quoted him as saying. "From what I have seen, clothing is not the main consideration of those who commit despicable acts."
Hishammuddin's aide, who spoke on condition of anonymity citing protocol, confirmed the comment.
The uniform became an issue in the local media after a little known group, the National Islamic Students Association of Malaysia, issued a statement last week, saying the loose, white blouse worn by schoolgirls was too transparent.
It said the blouse encouraged rape and premarital sex. The association, which claims to have some 1,500 members, said the uniforms should be reviewed to suit Islamic ideals.
The uniform "disturbs the eyes of men, whether they like to see it or not ... Because of that molestation, premarital sex and all kinds of other things occur," it said.
The statement has made little impact in this liberal Muslim-majority nation despite being given prominence in the print media.
Some 60 percent of Malaysia's 27 million people are Muslims, who mostly dress conservatively. However, many women, including Muslims in urban areas, also wear short skirts and tight tops
gosh. hey guys. you can see and fantasize all you like. but that's about it. no touching is allowed unless.. you get permission or you want some screams by gals and enjoy a little tea session with the police. ;)
don't blame da gals k. blame your uncontrollable LUST. besides, what da gals wearing are really not v inappropriate. haix! all your testosterone's fault! *shrugs =p bleh.
KUALA LUMPUR, Malaysia - Malaysia's education minister has dismissed complaints by an Islamic group that uniforms of schoolgirls are too sexy and invite rape, an official said Monday.
Education Minister Hishammuddin Hussein said over the weekend that his ministry was unlikely to change the school uniforms, which he does consider to be too sexy, but said officials would look into the matter.
"It is unfair to punish women and children and the clothes they wear for the act of rapists," The Star quoted him as saying. "From what I have seen, clothing is not the main consideration of those who commit despicable acts."
Hishammuddin's aide, who spoke on condition of anonymity citing protocol, confirmed the comment.
The uniform became an issue in the local media after a little known group, the National Islamic Students Association of Malaysia, issued a statement last week, saying the loose, white blouse worn by schoolgirls was too transparent.
It said the blouse encouraged rape and premarital sex. The association, which claims to have some 1,500 members, said the uniforms should be reviewed to suit Islamic ideals.
The uniform "disturbs the eyes of men, whether they like to see it or not ... Because of that molestation, premarital sex and all kinds of other things occur," it said.
The statement has made little impact in this liberal Muslim-majority nation despite being given prominence in the print media.
Some 60 percent of Malaysia's 27 million people are Muslims, who mostly dress conservatively. However, many women, including Muslims in urban areas, also wear short skirts and tight tops
gosh. hey guys. you can see and fantasize all you like. but that's about it. no touching is allowed unless.. you get permission or you want some screams by gals and enjoy a little tea session with the police. ;)
don't blame da gals k. blame your uncontrollable LUST. besides, what da gals wearing are really not v inappropriate. haix! all your testosterone's fault! *shrugs =p bleh.
Friday, May 23, 2008
hihi ppl.. in case i didn't keep you guys updated.. I'm studing in NUS- SDE [sch of design and environment] Archi.. I'm getting all excited and can't wait for sch to start! Cos I love workin at night.. and well.. my current job forces me to wake early =_= though i still slp late doing god knows what.. ahaha. love to nap in the afternoon =p
here's something i copied from a Facebook page.. some are really quite apt .. well.. some are quite extreme.. apparently ID students lead quite the same lives all over... :p [oh those marked red are what i'm already doing.. cos my life's kinda.. weird anyway]
You know you are a Product Designer Student when..
when the mouse hiding in your wall cavity at home, has more of a social life than you do....
when the last thing you think about at night, and the first thing you think about in the morning, is model making and deadlines...
when you know the cleaners by their first name....
when your housemates say to you good morning, and you say goodnight!...
when you spend so much money at the materials shop,you can't afford to pay attention...
When all your Christmas presents are wrapped inunused A0 CAD drawings...
when your parents have more of a social life than you do...
when you get on better with your tutors than you do with your housemates...
when you collect random pieces of rubbish, in case they help you with model making....
when you spend more more hours in the studio, than you do in your bed...
when you get excited at the prospect of 'pulling an all nighter' to get ahead with your projects....
when you tell the time based on people leaving the studio...
You are an expert and Photoshop, illustrator and auto cad but u don't know how to use MS excel...
your friends get more sleep in one night than you do in one week. ..
You consider 3AM an early night...
the only building on campus with its lights on is your studios'....
you say "It's only midnight- I have plenty of time to finish." ...
you confuse sunrise with sunset....
you ask what time it is, then ask "AM or PM?" ...
you strangle your roommate because she said she stayed up late studying. ...
your Friday night is 68 hours long....
you slice your finger, and the first thing you think of is if you'll be able to finish your model....
you wake up to go to uni and you're already there. ...
you refer to outside studio as the "Real World." ...
you confuse today and tomorrow....
you hear "Didn't you wear that yesterday?' followed by "and the day before that?" ...
you roommate files a Missing Person Report....
you count the number of days (not hours) you've been awake. ...
concept of time is not forward, but a count down from the time a project is due ("What time is it?""4hours 'till")....
you contemplate dropping your major 3 times a day....
you have a tent pitched in studio, but still don't go to sleep......
when u spark up a conversation in a pub, about how the ash tray is manufactured........
when the smell of burnt blue foam means home....
You don't consider saved up pounds and pennys as beer money but money to spend on more materials
when you have more mechanical pencils, unusually sized sheets of paper, and hand tools than stolen pint glasses and empty bottles adorning your window ledge...
when you feel strangley lost after project hand-ins.
You convert your own bathroom into a spray shop...
when after project hand-ins, your lack of stress worries you.
when you can't help but point out when something is a bad design and how you could redesign it to make it better...
When the word alias means long nights of frustration,annoyance, dispair, anger, sadness and ultimately failure
When you can't imagine life without polly filler...
when someone dents your blue foam model and you feel like taking your stanley knife to their neck.
when you knod politely and say hmmm when someone tries to 'improve' your design, when actually you want to tell them their ideas are sh*t.
when you have 10 minuets before your deadline and your still in staples getting the mammoth of a so called design report bound.
when filler primer is your last hope.
when someone asks to borrow your ruler and pencil.
when your sick of saying the word.. form, function,aesthetics and ergonomics.
when your walking down the street trying to think ofthe next big thing.
when you buy a new toothbrush just so that your current toothbrush can be an old toothbrush forpolishing stuff
when you set your alarm clock to remind you to stop working and eat
When you can no longer relish lie-ins, instead you find yourself getting up, cursing that you've already'wasted' 2 hours of project time....
you can't get to sleep at night till 2am because you had to sketch out and idea that came to you whilst you were worrying about a project.
when you go home after your first year and you can't hold a conversation with anyone because all you can talk about is Materials, Manufacture and Technology.
When you think I've handed in a project, time to party and have a life again... only to be given ANOTHER project with EVEN MORE WORK in it the next day! okaez.. but of course, it's not so scary, u'll still haf a life .. dun quit the course so soon..
ahaha.. =] have fun~
here's something i copied from a Facebook page.. some are really quite apt .. well.. some are quite extreme.. apparently ID students lead quite the same lives all over... :p [oh those marked red are what i'm already doing.. cos my life's kinda.. weird anyway]
You know you are a Product Designer Student when..
when the mouse hiding in your wall cavity at home, has more of a social life than you do....
when the last thing you think about at night, and the first thing you think about in the morning, is model making and deadlines...
when you know the cleaners by their first name....
when your housemates say to you good morning, and you say goodnight!...
when you spend so much money at the materials shop,you can't afford to pay attention...
When all your Christmas presents are wrapped inunused A0 CAD drawings...
when your parents have more of a social life than you do...
when you get on better with your tutors than you do with your housemates...
when you collect random pieces of rubbish, in case they help you with model making....
when you spend more more hours in the studio, than you do in your bed...
when you get excited at the prospect of 'pulling an all nighter' to get ahead with your projects....
when you tell the time based on people leaving the studio...
You are an expert and Photoshop, illustrator and auto cad but u don't know how to use MS excel...
your friends get more sleep in one night than you do in one week. ..
You consider 3AM an early night...
the only building on campus with its lights on is your studios'....
you say "It's only midnight- I have plenty of time to finish." ...
you confuse sunrise with sunset....
you ask what time it is, then ask "AM or PM?" ...
you strangle your roommate because she said she stayed up late studying. ...
your Friday night is 68 hours long....
you slice your finger, and the first thing you think of is if you'll be able to finish your model....
you wake up to go to uni and you're already there. ...
you refer to outside studio as the "Real World." ...
you confuse today and tomorrow....
you hear "Didn't you wear that yesterday?' followed by "and the day before that?" ...
you roommate files a Missing Person Report....
you count the number of days (not hours) you've been awake. ...
concept of time is not forward, but a count down from the time a project is due ("What time is it?""4hours 'till")....
you contemplate dropping your major 3 times a day....
you have a tent pitched in studio, but still don't go to sleep......
when u spark up a conversation in a pub, about how the ash tray is manufactured........
when the smell of burnt blue foam means home....
You don't consider saved up pounds and pennys as beer money but money to spend on more materials
when you have more mechanical pencils, unusually sized sheets of paper, and hand tools than stolen pint glasses and empty bottles adorning your window ledge...
when you feel strangley lost after project hand-ins.
You convert your own bathroom into a spray shop...
when after project hand-ins, your lack of stress worries you.
when you can't help but point out when something is a bad design and how you could redesign it to make it better...
When the word alias means long nights of frustration,annoyance, dispair, anger, sadness and ultimately failure
When you can't imagine life without polly filler...
when someone dents your blue foam model and you feel like taking your stanley knife to their neck.
when you knod politely and say hmmm when someone tries to 'improve' your design, when actually you want to tell them their ideas are sh*t.
when you have 10 minuets before your deadline and your still in staples getting the mammoth of a so called design report bound.
when filler primer is your last hope.
when someone asks to borrow your ruler and pencil.
when your sick of saying the word.. form, function,aesthetics and ergonomics.
when your walking down the street trying to think ofthe next big thing.
when you buy a new toothbrush just so that your current toothbrush can be an old toothbrush forpolishing stuff
when you set your alarm clock to remind you to stop working and eat
When you can no longer relish lie-ins, instead you find yourself getting up, cursing that you've already'wasted' 2 hours of project time....
you can't get to sleep at night till 2am because you had to sketch out and idea that came to you whilst you were worrying about a project.
when you go home after your first year and you can't hold a conversation with anyone because all you can talk about is Materials, Manufacture and Technology.
When you think I've handed in a project, time to party and have a life again... only to be given ANOTHER project with EVEN MORE WORK in it the next day! okaez.. but of course, it's not so scary, u'll still haf a life .. dun quit the course so soon..
ahaha.. =] have fun~
Friday, May 16, 2008
I wanna thank my faithful scissors, pen knife, super glue and pencil for accompanying me over those few sleepless nights.
Thank you 98.7 FM for grooving my nights away..
and a big THANK YOU for daddy who was really there for me all the way till 5am on the crucial day ;) Love you lots, you're the best dad!
Funny thing a P1 gal said
Q: Why is it called Mother Earth and not Father Earth?
A: Becos there are are more mothers than fathers.
I must be crazy to spend 70 bucks on PC games. [ but I finally had some interest to do something I like.. so I guess that's a good thing]
Made 2 new friends. Hi Gabriel! Hi Azi! =] welcome to my life.
Bought a new solar powered toy cos the first one got stolen
watched happy feet! I love da guy.. he's so cute =]
'you don't have to be beautiful, to turn me on.. I jus need ur body from dusk till dawn'
ahaha.. nice show =]
I love purple roses!! meaning: I will always love and adore you [so sweet]
I can't wait for my birthday.. cos I can get a new lappy and school starts around then
I'm happy that I made lil' improvements in people's life
ok. randomness stops here =] thank you =D
Thank you 98.7 FM for grooving my nights away..
and a big THANK YOU for daddy who was really there for me all the way till 5am on the crucial day ;) Love you lots, you're the best dad!
Funny thing a P1 gal said
Q: Why is it called Mother Earth and not Father Earth?
A: Becos there are are more mothers than fathers.
I must be crazy to spend 70 bucks on PC games. [ but I finally had some interest to do something I like.. so I guess that's a good thing]
Made 2 new friends. Hi Gabriel! Hi Azi! =] welcome to my life.
Bought a new solar powered toy cos the first one got stolen
watched happy feet! I love da guy.. he's so cute =]
'you don't have to be beautiful, to turn me on.. I jus need ur body from dusk till dawn'
ahaha.. nice show =]
I love purple roses!! meaning: I will always love and adore you [so sweet]
I can't wait for my birthday.. cos I can get a new lappy and school starts around then
I'm happy that I made lil' improvements in people's life
ok. randomness stops here =] thank you =D
Friday, May 09, 2008
I know I haven't been following the news.. but it seems that every time I open the papers, I see suffering and sense grief. It's kinda saddening to see that all the time. I've always lived a life of my own, apathetic to everything that doesn't concern me directly. It's not that I don't want to care.. what can I do? I guess being trapped all my life doesn't help that much. I need liberation from my own sufferings before I can liberate others, no?
Life, death, experiences.. why?
Even as I study and go through everything, I don't feel that it's my calling. [or is that something one makes up?]
Where's that sense of purpose..?
Bye. I'm hiding in my shell again. =] It's a safe place, without pain and suffering.
Life, death, experiences.. why?
Even as I study and go through everything, I don't feel that it's my calling. [or is that something one makes up?]
Where's that sense of purpose..?
Bye. I'm hiding in my shell again. =] It's a safe place, without pain and suffering.
Monday, May 05, 2008
Despite tears and my strongest desire to be there, I could not get to my family for three days because the only ticket I could afford required a three day advance purchase. No available credit on my maxed out Visa, no savings, and not an extra dime in the checking account. Sadly, I didn't even have anything of value to pawn.
For three days, I constantly called my family, asking repeatedly, "How is Dad? How is Dad? Tell him that I am coming. Please tell him that I will be there."
I could hardly eat, I was restless, I was crying, and I was devastated that I was stranded somewhere so from from my dad. The sense of helplessness was greater than I have ever known. My family was in shock and I was a thousand miles away, but it might as well have been a million miles. Finding $600 to reach them immediately was an impossible task. Being alone and realizing my financial situation made matters much worse.
When I finally made it home, my arrival was bittersweet. Dad was out of pain, no longer incapacitated by a stroke. But, I did not have the chance to tell him I loved him, I did not have the opportunity to lay my head by his beating heart, and I could no longer clasp his aged, worn hand safely between mine. Tears flowed and I knew in my heart he was still the best dad I'd ever had.
After an incredible celebration of Dad's life, I headed to the airport for the lonely flight home. Gazing out the plane window, I looked at the big fluffy clouds fully expecting to see my dad dancing in the heavens. At this point, I made a commitment to be like him: free, beholden to no one, in bondage to nothing.
[no, my dad is still alive. but each time I'm upset, I'll think of all the wonderful things we shared. It means so much more than the things we quarrel about.. =] love those who really care about you. these people are hard to come by.]
For three days, I constantly called my family, asking repeatedly, "How is Dad? How is Dad? Tell him that I am coming. Please tell him that I will be there."
I could hardly eat, I was restless, I was crying, and I was devastated that I was stranded somewhere so from from my dad. The sense of helplessness was greater than I have ever known. My family was in shock and I was a thousand miles away, but it might as well have been a million miles. Finding $600 to reach them immediately was an impossible task. Being alone and realizing my financial situation made matters much worse.
When I finally made it home, my arrival was bittersweet. Dad was out of pain, no longer incapacitated by a stroke. But, I did not have the chance to tell him I loved him, I did not have the opportunity to lay my head by his beating heart, and I could no longer clasp his aged, worn hand safely between mine. Tears flowed and I knew in my heart he was still the best dad I'd ever had.
After an incredible celebration of Dad's life, I headed to the airport for the lonely flight home. Gazing out the plane window, I looked at the big fluffy clouds fully expecting to see my dad dancing in the heavens. At this point, I made a commitment to be like him: free, beholden to no one, in bondage to nothing.
[no, my dad is still alive. but each time I'm upset, I'll think of all the wonderful things we shared. It means so much more than the things we quarrel about.. =] love those who really care about you. these people are hard to come by.]
Saturday, May 03, 2008
You are Barefoot! |
 You're a total free spirit, go with the flow girl You can't be restricted by shoes for very long And unsuprisingly, the same goes for men Your match is out there - and he's as carefree as you are |
What's Important to You... And What Isn't: |
 For you, sex is usually your number one priority. You don't mind having things to get done... as long as they don't pile up on you. Your most important priorities get your attention. You are happily able to let the less important things slide. You want thinking to be a high priority, but you don't take enough time for yourself. |
um.. seriously?!
Your Personality at 35,000 Says... |
 Deep down, you prefer spending time alone to spending time with others. You enjoy thinking more than talking. You are good with your place in the world. You are confident and comfortable with who you are. Your gift is having good ears. You are naturally musical, and you pick up foreign languages easily. You are inspired by what is possible. Real life is often too ordinary for you. It's very easy for you to feel happy. You can find peace with any situation. |
Guys Think You're Easy to Be With... But Not Easy |
 You're definitely a flirt - and a good one. But you also know that you shouldn't make a move on any cute guy who passes by. You save your seductive moves for someone who already knows the real you. That way, your sex appeal is just part of the whole package. |
You are a Career Girl! |
 You may not be a CEO yet, but you're well on your way to success. You take your career seriously, and you wouldn't stop working for any guy! An independent woman, you pay for your own car, clothes, and housing. And men appreciate that - at least, the ones as driven as you are. |
You Are a Chimera |
 You are very outgoing and well connected to many people. Incredibly devoted to your family and friends, you find purpose in nurturing others. You are rarely alone, and you do best in the company of others. You are incredibly expressive, and people are sometimes overwhelmed by your strong emotions. |
well.. sorry for affecting some of the people in my life when I get really cranky..=p
You Should Be an Artist |
 You are incredibly creative, spontaneous, and unique. No one can guess what you're going to do next, but it's usually something amazing. You can't deal with routine, rules, or structure. You're easily bored. As long as you are able to innovate and break the rules, you are extremely successful. You do best when you: - Can work by yourself - Can express your personality in your work You would also be a good journalist or actor. |
Your Inner Color is Yellow |
 Your Personality: Life's too short not to have fun. Your bright energy brings joy and laughter to those around you. You in Love: A total flirt, you need a lot of freedom to play. But you'll be loyal to that one person who makes you feel safe. Your Career: You love variety in a job, and you probably won't stick with one career. You would make a great professor, writer, or actor. |
Men See You As Desirable |
 Men often find you immediately attractive and sensual You're honesty is refreshingly beautiful ... it draws guys in You are also able to be open with your feelings with no emotional baggage Packing light means you enjoy new relationships easily |
Your Relationship is Strong |
 You've built the foundation of a great relationship, and it would take a lot to shake it. Through good communication and respect, you have a true love that can last a lifetime. |
Friday, May 02, 2008
Feeling really dreadful these days... I'm only functioning on minimum energy levels.. I dunno why I'm always feeling depressed or upset or entertaining negative thoughts. I just can't see anything good these days. =_= tired.
I can't find a sense of meaning or purpose. Just wasting my life away. There are things I want to do but I always get obstructed in some way. Sigh. Don't tell me it's up to me to move away the obstacles. It's not like I didn't try hard enough.
Wonder how long I have to endure this kind of life.
I can't find a sense of meaning or purpose. Just wasting my life away. There are things I want to do but I always get obstructed in some way. Sigh. Don't tell me it's up to me to move away the obstacles. It's not like I didn't try hard enough.
Wonder how long I have to endure this kind of life.
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Laughter and tears are memories of yesterdays.. which have turned to dust and ashes..
Love can be a beautiful thing..
yet it can also be so painful when things are not meant to be. [so there really is such a thing as destiny?]
I admit, I was and still am.. a romantic idealist. I thought things could be just the way I wanted them to be. But I guess my own wilfulness got the better of me. Sigh.. reminds me of the song by Stacy Kent..where she sang, 'Loves the same old sad sensation..'
there's never a right time to say goodbye
Love can be a beautiful thing..
yet it can also be so painful when things are not meant to be. [so there really is such a thing as destiny?]
I admit, I was and still am.. a romantic idealist. I thought things could be just the way I wanted them to be. But I guess my own wilfulness got the better of me. Sigh.. reminds me of the song by Stacy Kent..where she sang, 'Loves the same old sad sensation..'
there's never a right time to say goodbye
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
To Be or Not to Be, that IS the question..
Well, I pretty much thought out clearly that I'm either gonna be doing something that shape the environment or something that shape the new generations to come. I think both are decent and noble jobs because it allows me to help mould what's around me [hopefully into something better] so what do you guys think?
say,
a)Architecture and other related fields
b)Teaching
Gimme some advice? *hugs thanks.
Well, I pretty much thought out clearly that I'm either gonna be doing something that shape the environment or something that shape the new generations to come. I think both are decent and noble jobs because it allows me to help mould what's around me [hopefully into something better] so what do you guys think?
say,
a)Architecture and other related fields
b)Teaching
Gimme some advice? *hugs thanks.
Saturday, April 12, 2008
well.. I am an ENFP.. anyone wanna marry me? =p
If you know ahead of time what those preferred personality traits are you have the knowledge necessary to make a marriage last and flourish; actually, you have the type knowledge to make any relationship grow.
Here is the ENFP way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that ENFPs naturally show as they relate to others.
If you are an ENFP let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an ENFP allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how ENFPs behave.
The ENFP will bring much energy to their marriage/relationships
The ENFP will have no difficulty apologizing to mate and children when needed
The ENFP is very friendly, outgoing in most situations
The ENFP is strongly communicative and NEEDS it from a mate
ENFPs can be very harmonious in relationships/li>
ENFPs enjoy romance in all ways…they NEED romance
The ENFPs live in the world of the imagination
ENFPs will have no difficulty complementing you and praise is second nature to them
The ENFP tends to be very emotional
The ENFP under stress may become critical and withdrawn
The ENFP will incorporate fantasy and sex
The ENFP can be very sensual
The ENFPs are loving and warm”
The ENFP is always searching for meaning
The ENFP needs positive feedback and response from a mate
ENFPs can be overprotective with children
Many ENFPs are almost psychic in their ability to “know” what you are thinking
The ENFP has a tendency to continue to search for the “perfect” relationship in and out of marriage
ENFP Conflict Resolution Activity & Behavior Personality Traits
On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the ENFP approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.
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ENFP Conflict Reactions Personality Traits:
ENFP will likely feel uncomfortable, misunderstood in conflict
ENFP will likely take the conflict personally
ENFP will desire to find a harmonious solution to the problem
ENFP will not usually take the most logical approach to finding the solution
ENFP can be extremely emotional in conflict
ENFP may prefer to avoid the conflict
ENFP may determine initially that holding onto the marriage/relationship is more important than the conflict
ENFP Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits
ENFP will naturally consider the feelings of others in conflict resolution activity
ENFP will treat all parties kindly and fairly
ENFP will focus on people centered issues
ENFP will not typically look for logical solutions to the conflict
ENFP will search for the idealistic, romantic, optimistic, beneficial (harmony) solution
The ENFP will likely avoid any criticism in their conflict resolution activity, unless stressed
ENFP can be very creative in conflict resolution activity
ENFP Likely Positive Solutions Will Beul>
Fair, reasonable, considerate
Idealistic, naïve, unrealistic
Perceptive, discerning
Harmonious, cordial, agreeable, affable
ENFP Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities (weaknesses)
ENFP will typically overlook more logical solutions
ENFP may take the situation extremely personally
ENFP may not see the details of the situation
ENFP may begin by talking all around the central problem
ENFPs are likely to decide too quickly because of the pain
ENFP will probably discount, ignore, disregard, and overlook solutions that are logic-centered
ENFP may overstate, embellish, the degree of hurt feelings
ENFPs may ignore the situation if it hurts too much
ENFPs may not state their thinking directly, in details thus can be difficult to follow.
If you know ahead of time what those preferred personality traits are you have the knowledge necessary to make a marriage last and flourish; actually, you have the type knowledge to make any relationship grow.
Here is the ENFP way. You will see the many and varied personality traits that ENFPs naturally show as they relate to others.
If you are an ENFP let this self-knowledge help and guide you in your marriage and family life. If you are in relationship with an ENFP allow the wonder of what you learn here to guide your understanding of and responses to how ENFPs behave.
The ENFP will bring much energy to their marriage/relationships
The ENFP will have no difficulty apologizing to mate and children when needed
The ENFP is very friendly, outgoing in most situations
The ENFP is strongly communicative and NEEDS it from a mate
ENFPs can be very harmonious in relationships/li>
ENFPs enjoy romance in all ways…they NEED romance
The ENFPs live in the world of the imagination
ENFPs will have no difficulty complementing you and praise is second nature to them
The ENFP tends to be very emotional
The ENFP under stress may become critical and withdrawn
The ENFP will incorporate fantasy and sex
The ENFP can be very sensual
The ENFPs are loving and warm”
The ENFP is always searching for meaning
The ENFP needs positive feedback and response from a mate
ENFPs can be overprotective with children
Many ENFPs are almost psychic in their ability to “know” what you are thinking
The ENFP has a tendency to continue to search for the “perfect” relationship in and out of marriage
ENFP Conflict Resolution Activity & Behavior Personality Traits
On the Personality & Marriage section of this site the statement was made that all relationships will encounter conflict. It is part of being human. How we experience conflict, react to it and move to solve it are instinctive. So we have some power and control and will INSTINCTIVELY and NATURALLY use our personality traits in a conflict resolution activity, at least some of the time. The following personality traits are keys to understanding the ENFP approach to conflict in relationships/marriage.
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ENFP Conflict Reactions Personality Traits:
ENFP will likely feel uncomfortable, misunderstood in conflict
ENFP will likely take the conflict personally
ENFP will desire to find a harmonious solution to the problem
ENFP will not usually take the most logical approach to finding the solution
ENFP can be extremely emotional in conflict
ENFP may prefer to avoid the conflict
ENFP may determine initially that holding onto the marriage/relationship is more important than the conflict
ENFP Conflict Resolution Activity Personality Traits
ENFP will naturally consider the feelings of others in conflict resolution activity
ENFP will treat all parties kindly and fairly
ENFP will focus on people centered issues
ENFP will not typically look for logical solutions to the conflict
ENFP will search for the idealistic, romantic, optimistic, beneficial (harmony) solution
The ENFP will likely avoid any criticism in their conflict resolution activity, unless stressed
ENFP can be very creative in conflict resolution activity
ENFP Likely Positive Solutions Will Beul>
Fair, reasonable, considerate
Idealistic, naïve, unrealistic
Perceptive, discerning
Harmonious, cordial, agreeable, affable
ENFP Conflict Resolution Activity-Improvement Opportunities (weaknesses)
ENFP will typically overlook more logical solutions
ENFP may take the situation extremely personally
ENFP may not see the details of the situation
ENFP may begin by talking all around the central problem
ENFPs are likely to decide too quickly because of the pain
ENFP will probably discount, ignore, disregard, and overlook solutions that are logic-centered
ENFP may overstate, embellish, the degree of hurt feelings
ENFPs may ignore the situation if it hurts too much
ENFPs may not state their thinking directly, in details thus can be difficult to follow.
Wednesday, April 09, 2008
for cat lovers~
Your cat's tail is an indicator of its mood and if you observe the tail's movements, you can learn many things from these signals. There are a number of tail signals that the cat can display:
Tail curves gently down and then up again at the tip: This is a peaceful, relaxed cat.
Tail raised slightly and softly curved: Something has caught your cat's interest.
Tail held erect but with the tip tilted over: Your cat is in a friendly, greeting mood but may have some reservations.
Tail fully erect with the tip stiffly vertical: This is a very intense greeting display and has no reservations.
Tail lowered fully and possibly even tucked between the hind legs: The cat feels defeated or submissive.
Tail lowered and fluffed out: The cat is showing fear.
Tail swished violently from side to side: This signal indicates that the cat is very angry.
Tail held still, but with tip twitching: This signal shows the cat is mildly upset.
Tail held erect with its whole length quivered: The gesture appears to show happiness or friendliness usually given to its owner as a greeting. It is also the same type of gesture used in territory marking (used by whole males).
Tail held to one side: This is displayed by a female cat in heat.
Tail held straight and fully bristled: This signal is one of an aggressive cat.
Tail arched and bristled: This signal is one of the defensive cat.
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/9224/signals.html
Your cat's tail is an indicator of its mood and if you observe the tail's movements, you can learn many things from these signals. There are a number of tail signals that the cat can display:
Tail curves gently down and then up again at the tip: This is a peaceful, relaxed cat.
Tail raised slightly and softly curved: Something has caught your cat's interest.
Tail held erect but with the tip tilted over: Your cat is in a friendly, greeting mood but may have some reservations.
Tail fully erect with the tip stiffly vertical: This is a very intense greeting display and has no reservations.
Tail lowered fully and possibly even tucked between the hind legs: The cat feels defeated or submissive.
Tail lowered and fluffed out: The cat is showing fear.
Tail swished violently from side to side: This signal indicates that the cat is very angry.
Tail held still, but with tip twitching: This signal shows the cat is mildly upset.
Tail held erect with its whole length quivered: The gesture appears to show happiness or friendliness usually given to its owner as a greeting. It is also the same type of gesture used in territory marking (used by whole males).
Tail held to one side: This is displayed by a female cat in heat.
Tail held straight and fully bristled: This signal is one of an aggressive cat.
Tail arched and bristled: This signal is one of the defensive cat.
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Bluffs/9224/signals.html
Monday, April 07, 2008
Lesbian To dream that you are a lesbian (but you are not in your waking life), signifies a union with aspects of yourself. It is symbolic of self-love, self-acceptance, and passion. You are comfortable with your sexuality and femininity.
I dreamt that I was a lesbian.. haha
Haven't been updating much.. but there's nothing much to update anyway. Currently listening to satin jazz.. feeling v relaxed. I had a great Saturday. Thanks guys.. for loving me =] *hugs
Much happier n less stressed. I guess it's good. One doesn't need all the money in the world to be happy..
lalala.. happily in love~
I dreamt that I was a lesbian.. haha
Haven't been updating much.. but there's nothing much to update anyway. Currently listening to satin jazz.. feeling v relaxed. I had a great Saturday. Thanks guys.. for loving me =] *hugs
Much happier n less stressed. I guess it's good. One doesn't need all the money in the world to be happy..
lalala.. happily in love~
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
What kinda lover am I?
The Steady
When it comes to your love life, you appreciate the romantic gifts: Roses, chocolates and other sweet surprises. But ultimately what touch your heart most are those intangible little gestures of love, like how he pays attention to your wants and needs, really listens to you and is always there to share your joys and tears.You're down-to-earth, and that's great because you don't expect the impossible from your partner or a fairy-tale relationship. Sure, you're super glad to have found someone to share your life with, but at the same time you need your own space too.Still, keep feeding your relationship with romance day after day and you can strengthen it even more: Give him a kiss, a cuddle and ask him how he's doing. Indulge in fancy dinner dates and surprise him with a Valentine card every now and then. The more attention you give to your relationship, the closer you'll become.
Is he Mr. Right?
You scored - 8/10
Congrats! You've found a real sweetheart whom you can trust, love and feel safe with. But you also realize that, alas, real life relationships aren't as simple as happily-ever-after fairy tales, and it takes lots of communication, trust, compromise and learning about each other to keep the love and passion going strong. Keep communicating, be encouraging and never take each other for granted. You look like you're made for each other – go for it!
The Steady
When it comes to your love life, you appreciate the romantic gifts: Roses, chocolates and other sweet surprises. But ultimately what touch your heart most are those intangible little gestures of love, like how he pays attention to your wants and needs, really listens to you and is always there to share your joys and tears.You're down-to-earth, and that's great because you don't expect the impossible from your partner or a fairy-tale relationship. Sure, you're super glad to have found someone to share your life with, but at the same time you need your own space too.Still, keep feeding your relationship with romance day after day and you can strengthen it even more: Give him a kiss, a cuddle and ask him how he's doing. Indulge in fancy dinner dates and surprise him with a Valentine card every now and then. The more attention you give to your relationship, the closer you'll become.
Is he Mr. Right?
You scored - 8/10
Congrats! You've found a real sweetheart whom you can trust, love and feel safe with. But you also realize that, alas, real life relationships aren't as simple as happily-ever-after fairy tales, and it takes lots of communication, trust, compromise and learning about each other to keep the love and passion going strong. Keep communicating, be encouraging and never take each other for granted. You look like you're made for each other – go for it!
Monday, March 24, 2008
1. At what age do you wish to marry?
Before 27.. it’s awfully late aleady. I don’t wanna have kids with problems and problems because of my negligence.
2. Have you given your first kiss away?
First kiss means lip to lip? No. On cheek? Yea..
3. If you were to be stranded on a desert island, who are the 3 buddies you would take with you? Why?
I’m not gonna tell. =] I mean.. I’ll have to ask if they wanna come along.
4. Where is the place that you want to go the most?
A place without suffering.
5. If you can have 1 dream to come true, what would it be?Unlimited wishes – Duh.
6. Do you believe in seeing a rainbow after the rain?
It’s scientifically proven that there is a possibility of it happening. Therefore, I believe it.
7. What are you afraid to lose the most now?
My sanity and myself.
8. If you win $1 million, what would you do?
I’d hire the best financial analysts and invest a huge portion to get back more millions and then think about what to do.
9. If you meet someone that you love, would you confess to him/her?
I already did.
10. What is your favorite quote?
That’s the way it’s meant to be. [haha.. good to use when things don’t go your way ;]]
11. What are the requirements that you wish from your
other half?
Respect, sensitivity, sensibility, space, understanding, patience. [guess I don’’t have to go on.. it’s kinda difficult to find a guy like that.. and a guy that likes
me]
12. Which type of person do you hate the most?Irresponsible type.
13. What is your ambition?
Still trying to work that out.
14. If you have a fault, would you rather the people around you point out to you or would you rather they keep quiet?
Point out but you don’t have to scream or anything. I don’t do that when I point stuff out to people.. [of course, I know some people just suck at being tactful so.. ]
15. What do you think is the most important thing in your life?
To stay alive and healthy [That’s da most important, no?]
16. Are you a shopaholic or not?
If I had the cash.. yea.
17. Find a word to describe the person who tagged you.
I wasn’t tagged.
18. If you have a chance. Which part of your character you would like to change?
My immaturity at times?
19. Is there anything that you have done that makes you regret?
Yea.. I guess. But I choose to put them behind. Don’t particularly wanna keep feeling regretful, you know?
Before 27.. it’s awfully late aleady. I don’t wanna have kids with problems and problems because of my negligence.
2. Have you given your first kiss away?
First kiss means lip to lip? No. On cheek? Yea..
3. If you were to be stranded on a desert island, who are the 3 buddies you would take with you? Why?
I’m not gonna tell. =] I mean.. I’ll have to ask if they wanna come along.
4. Where is the place that you want to go the most?
A place without suffering.
5. If you can have 1 dream to come true, what would it be?Unlimited wishes – Duh.
6. Do you believe in seeing a rainbow after the rain?
It’s scientifically proven that there is a possibility of it happening. Therefore, I believe it.
7. What are you afraid to lose the most now?
My sanity and myself.
8. If you win $1 million, what would you do?
I’d hire the best financial analysts and invest a huge portion to get back more millions and then think about what to do.
9. If you meet someone that you love, would you confess to him/her?
I already did.
10. What is your favorite quote?
That’s the way it’s meant to be. [haha.. good to use when things don’t go your way ;]]
11. What are the requirements that you wish from your
other half?
Respect, sensitivity, sensibility, space, understanding, patience. [guess I don’’t have to go on.. it’s kinda difficult to find a guy like that.. and a guy that likes
me]
12. Which type of person do you hate the most?Irresponsible type.
13. What is your ambition?
Still trying to work that out.
14. If you have a fault, would you rather the people around you point out to you or would you rather they keep quiet?
Point out but you don’t have to scream or anything. I don’t do that when I point stuff out to people.. [of course, I know some people just suck at being tactful so.. ]
15. What do you think is the most important thing in your life?
To stay alive and healthy [That’s da most important, no?]
16. Are you a shopaholic or not?
If I had the cash.. yea.
17. Find a word to describe the person who tagged you.
I wasn’t tagged.
18. If you have a chance. Which part of your character you would like to change?
My immaturity at times?
19. Is there anything that you have done that makes you regret?
Yea.. I guess. But I choose to put them behind. Don’t particularly wanna keep feeling regretful, you know?
Friends? What friends? I once thought I could depend and trust my FRIENDS. How many times have they failed me? I can't remember.. too many times.. too ugly. I don't dare say I'm the best friend people can have.. But whatever I promise, I deliver. If I can't, I'll make up to it.
Now? Maybe my dad's right all along. Maybe true friends don't exist in this materialistic world anymore. Friends nowadays know how to make use of each other. They call it MUTUAL BENEFIT. Nice term to use huh. I don't know.. but I don't think friends should be like that. I thought friends are suppose to share with each other their joy and sorrows. Why is it that I can't share my sorrows with others? What happened to my FRIENDS? Or maybe it's my own problem. [Seems like only counsellors lend me their ears..]
From now on, I'll face this world.. WITH OR WITHOUT THE SO-CALLED FRIENDS. Friends, I hope you don't feel hurt. Cos feeling hurt is not gonna help anyway right. I'm not demanding things from you guys. I just.. don't know what a true friend is anymore.
Are you my true friend?
Gee.. is that what growing up means? If it is, I'm telling you it sucks.
Now? Maybe my dad's right all along. Maybe true friends don't exist in this materialistic world anymore. Friends nowadays know how to make use of each other. They call it MUTUAL BENEFIT. Nice term to use huh. I don't know.. but I don't think friends should be like that. I thought friends are suppose to share with each other their joy and sorrows. Why is it that I can't share my sorrows with others? What happened to my FRIENDS? Or maybe it's my own problem. [Seems like only counsellors lend me their ears..]
From now on, I'll face this world.. WITH OR WITHOUT THE SO-CALLED FRIENDS. Friends, I hope you don't feel hurt. Cos feeling hurt is not gonna help anyway right. I'm not demanding things from you guys. I just.. don't know what a true friend is anymore.
Are you my true friend?
Gee.. is that what growing up means? If it is, I'm telling you it sucks.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Hi there. I apologise for not updating earlier. Quite a lot's been going on and I'm a born procrastinator. Anyway, here I am.. let's get on.
My results?
You sure you're that interested to know? Well.. it's not all that pretty but I can live with it.
Uni
Yea, that's the part that gave me headaches. With my results.. I can't go too far up..But I don't really deserve to go all the way down [sorry if it sounds a bit cryptic] I'm just trying to say that I can't really qualify for those really good courses but my results really aren't all that bad. In the end, I've at least decided to make a clean break from sciences. I'm not too sure if what I'm doing is right. But I'll move on from here and make the best out of whatever comes my way. Special thanks to so many people who gave me their advice and stood by me when I felt lost and upset.
Love
I don't know what's happening to it but I guess it's still ok and I'm not complaining.
Blog
I searched over 4000 blogskins but could find one that's better. Oh.. and I've changed the songs.. These are my favourites. Life for rent is really a great song! And to that special someone who's not so sure if I'm the one for him, 'wherever you go, whatever you do, I'll be right here waiting for you'
I'm still feeling lost.. not knowing what I should do.. who should I be. Lots of questions with no answers. I still feel imprisoned after 18 years.. living life my way. [really appreciate that special someone who understands my situation and is patient with me]
As always, I'll take my optimism with me wherever I go, whatever I do.. hopefully everything will be ok =]
Love,
Jas
My results?
You sure you're that interested to know? Well.. it's not all that pretty but I can live with it.
Uni
Yea, that's the part that gave me headaches. With my results.. I can't go too far up..But I don't really deserve to go all the way down [sorry if it sounds a bit cryptic] I'm just trying to say that I can't really qualify for those really good courses but my results really aren't all that bad. In the end, I've at least decided to make a clean break from sciences. I'm not too sure if what I'm doing is right. But I'll move on from here and make the best out of whatever comes my way. Special thanks to so many people who gave me their advice and stood by me when I felt lost and upset.
Love
I don't know what's happening to it but I guess it's still ok and I'm not complaining.
Blog
I searched over 4000 blogskins but could find one that's better. Oh.. and I've changed the songs.. These are my favourites. Life for rent is really a great song! And to that special someone who's not so sure if I'm the one for him, 'wherever you go, whatever you do, I'll be right here waiting for you'
I'm still feeling lost.. not knowing what I should do.. who should I be. Lots of questions with no answers. I still feel imprisoned after 18 years.. living life my way. [really appreciate that special someone who understands my situation and is patient with me]
As always, I'll take my optimism with me wherever I go, whatever I do.. hopefully everything will be ok =]
Love,
Jas
Sunday, March 02, 2008
You Are a Witch (or Warlock) |
 You are deviously brilliant and a perfect manipulator. You somehow always end up getting what you want - without anyone knowing you're working behind the scenes. Crafty and cunning, you can work your way out of any jam. And it's easy for you to get people to do what you want, whether you're working for good or evil. Your greatest power: Mind control Your greatest weakness: Making people your puppets You play well with: Ghosts |
Monday, February 25, 2008
Friday, February 22, 2008
Your Dosha is Vata |
 Creative and restless, you take in all of life's pleasures (maybe a little too much!). You're quick witted and very talkative, but you also tend to have a spotty memory. You tend to get very into ideas, people, and lifestyles... but only for a short time. It's difficult to hold your attention, and you sometimes feel with what life has to offer. With friends: You are very uncomfortable in new situations or with new people In love: You fall in and out of love very easily To achieve more balance: Live in a warm climate and spend some quiet time in nature |
You are a Total Romantic |
 For you, love is like a fairy tale. Or magic. Or a Meg Ryan movie. Problem is, you sort of want all three. You bring the spark in the relationship In turn, you expect your guy to keep the fire burning Not a bad deal, as long as you find the right Prince. |
The Part of You That No One Sees |
 You are innocent, sweet, and young at heart. You present a purity that many people find appealing. However, you are often tired of people treating you like a child. Underneath it all, you enjoy being babied and pampered. You have been known to feign inexperience to get out of sticky situations. You fear getting old and losing your childlike charms. |
You Are a Boxer Puppy |
 Energetic, playful and good with kids. You've also got a wild spirit that can't be trained or tamed. |
Your Inner Child Is Naughty |
 Like a child, you tend to discount social rules. It's just too much fun to break the rules! You love trouble - and it seems that trouble loves you. And no matter what, you refuse to grow up! |
You Need Some Blue in Your Life |
 Blue will make you feel calm, intelligent, and confident. And with a little blue, you will project an aura of sincerity and loyalty. If you want wisdom, you've got to get a little blue in your life! For extra punch: Combine blue with brown or green The downside of blue: Blue can make you seem more conservative and reserved than you are The consequences of more blue in your life: You will feel more open to the world around you You will have a broader and richer perspective on life You will be able to find solitude, even in the most hectic times |
You Are a Good Friend Because You're Loyal |
 You stick with your friends no matter what, even if you feel like they're doing the wrong thing. You believe in letting people figure out their own path in life. It's not your place to interfere. And part of your loyalty means that you'll do a lot for your friends. You definitely go the extra mile. You'll even do great things for friends without them asking. After all, that's what friendship is all about. You are truly a friend for life. And you have friends you've known since you were a kid. Your friends can count on you to do a favor, remember a birthday, or just be there to listen. Your friends need you most when: They can't turn to anyone else You really can't be friends with: Fickle people who change friends quickly Your friendship quote: "Friendship doubles your joys, and divides your sorrows." |
You Should Learn Chinese |
 Surprised? You shouldn't be - Chinese is perfect for an ambitious person like you. You're a natural entrepreneur, and a billion people are waiting to do business with you! |
prob is.. I already learnt chinese?
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Which Instrument are you?
Clarinet
You are quiet, reserved, but very creative. A lot of people don't seem to understand you because you have your own 'beat'. You enjoy both the light and dark side of life, and sometimes this comes off as a little creepy. You are sometimes too quiet, you need to learn to speak up!!! You are very intreperative and creative in your workplace/activities and tend to be a good follower. You often dislike confrontation and would rather just forget problems, as opposed to fighting or talking about them. You love to read and write, and love to look very 'Posh'. Although you are often misunderstood, you are undoubtably cool.
Clarinet
You are quiet, reserved, but very creative. A lot of people don't seem to understand you because you have your own 'beat'. You enjoy both the light and dark side of life, and sometimes this comes off as a little creepy. You are sometimes too quiet, you need to learn to speak up!!! You are very intreperative and creative in your workplace/activities and tend to be a good follower. You often dislike confrontation and would rather just forget problems, as opposed to fighting or talking about them. You love to read and write, and love to look very 'Posh'. Although you are often misunderstood, you are undoubtably cool.
hi.. it's been a week.
I had a mini retreat [meaning.. off da com and off da phone.. basically, having my alone time because I'm consistently receiving stimuli from my external surrounding] Slept 12 hours on Saturday.. it felt great and I'm physically recharged.
I also did quite a bit of thinkin about how I want to lead my life, what I want to do with it.. how I want to relate to the people around me.. my worries, issues and concerns.. it's not sorted out yet. But I guess, it all takes time. Some day, some how.. I hope I will grow to become a better me. Someone I'm proud to be.
I had a mini retreat [meaning.. off da com and off da phone.. basically, having my alone time because I'm consistently receiving stimuli from my external surrounding] Slept 12 hours on Saturday.. it felt great and I'm physically recharged.
I also did quite a bit of thinkin about how I want to lead my life, what I want to do with it.. how I want to relate to the people around me.. my worries, issues and concerns.. it's not sorted out yet. But I guess, it all takes time. Some day, some how.. I hope I will grow to become a better me. Someone I'm proud to be.
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Hi people..
It's been quite some time, no? Today, I've enough energy to blog. Yes, I was really tired mentally, emotionally, physically-whatever. I had a good new year and things took an unexpected turn [for the good, I guess] I had a good outing with friends yesterday and =] I'm going to restart.. to rebuild everything. It's like a cycle. There will be times when I feel totally drained, when I can't move on the way I did.. I will start over. This time, I will have someone with me =] What's going to happen next? I don't know. But whatever comes, I shall face it with optimism and take the roller coaster ride.
Love,
Jas.
It's been quite some time, no? Today, I've enough energy to blog. Yes, I was really tired mentally, emotionally, physically-whatever. I had a good new year and things took an unexpected turn [for the good, I guess] I had a good outing with friends yesterday and =] I'm going to restart.. to rebuild everything. It's like a cycle. There will be times when I feel totally drained, when I can't move on the way I did.. I will start over. This time, I will have someone with me =] What's going to happen next? I don't know. But whatever comes, I shall face it with optimism and take the roller coaster ride.
Love,
Jas.
Saturday, February 02, 2008
hey there..
It's been a long time since I feel good about myself. To be honest, I've been self conscious because of my skin condition.. I don't wish to elaborate on it. In any case, I've decided to take an injection [it's poison] to make myself feel better. There are side effects in the long run.. but how long is long? IN DA LONG RUN, WE'RE ALL DEAD.. [thx to keynes] So.. in short.. I feel GOOD!
Bought lots of stuff today and they're all from my pocket [ouch] no.. actually it didn't feel painful. =p I'm a spendrift>> easy come easy go haha =D so.. I spent 230 on my glasses.. 110 on bag shoes socks.. another 7.50 on wallet.. all converse excluding glasses.. owed mum a hundred previously.. so i paid her.. and now I'm quite broke again. =[
but it's new year ^_^ lalala.. da happy happy new year for ppl to spend spend spend whee~~ haha.. i mean.. money can be made and so.. since I don't have much responsibility [meaning children or husband..] I might as well indulge on myself first =p
Here's an advert~
CNY promo ^_^ 2 readings for da price of 1! *terms and conditions apply
*1. it's on a first come first serve basis.
2.promo orders end on da 8th feb? [the last official holiday for CNY]
3. max. no. of cards is ten
It's been a long time since I feel good about myself. To be honest, I've been self conscious because of my skin condition.. I don't wish to elaborate on it. In any case, I've decided to take an injection [it's poison] to make myself feel better. There are side effects in the long run.. but how long is long? IN DA LONG RUN, WE'RE ALL DEAD.. [thx to keynes] So.. in short.. I feel GOOD!
Bought lots of stuff today and they're all from my pocket [ouch] no.. actually it didn't feel painful. =p I'm a spendrift>> easy come easy go haha =D so.. I spent 230 on my glasses.. 110 on bag shoes socks.. another 7.50 on wallet.. all converse excluding glasses.. owed mum a hundred previously.. so i paid her.. and now I'm quite broke again. =[
but it's new year ^_^ lalala.. da happy happy new year for ppl to spend spend spend whee~~ haha.. i mean.. money can be made and so.. since I don't have much responsibility [meaning children or husband..] I might as well indulge on myself first =p
Here's an advert~
CNY promo ^_^ 2 readings for da price of 1! *terms and conditions apply
*1. it's on a first come first serve basis.
2.promo orders end on da 8th feb? [the last official holiday for CNY]
3. max. no. of cards is ten
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